1. When your boyfriend dumps you … he stops calling. This occurred to me this morning as I was getting ready for work. Mr. Wonderful used to call me on his commute, which, even though I was often harried, I loved. He has stopped doing this. For some reason, this truly, deeply shocked me. I miss it.
2. When you decide on a school night to practice your Halloween makeup at 10:30 before you go to bed, you shouldn’t assume that just because you are female and a former theatre major that you have any skill whatsoever when it comes to eyeliner. Especially if you haven’t worn eyeliner since Halloween 1996. You will learn to appreciate that Amy Winehouse – while a mess in many ways – is truly skilled. At 10:40 on a school night is also not a good time to realize – only after pencilling in black goth eyebrows – that since you don’t wear eye makeup, you don’t have any eye makeup remover.
3. True love looks like vegetable chili. And also like roasted garlic pizza. My dear friend Leeza had me over for chili and an empathetic discussion that included no ex-boyfriend bashing. Just having someone prepare a hot meal for me felt so comforting. And tonight, after listening to me sob on the phone, Alice called back and announced that she and Jake were on their way over with dog, wine, and roasted garlic pizza – my favorite – en tow. All three friends offered kind words and deep, loving friendship. I am so, so humbled to have such wonderful people in my life.